tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2570797399734382213.post258121661488018827..comments2023-06-26T07:09:15.225-06:00Comments on Love, Power & Fairytale Endings: Jumping Up and DownJeffe Kennedyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04779020656676094853noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2570797399734382213.post-27360901785725297172011-01-26T07:15:02.329-07:002011-01-26T07:15:02.329-07:00Sylvia, when I lived in Wyoming, a writer came fro...Sylvia, when I lived in Wyoming, a writer came from New York to teach a the university. She complained that she'd ask discussion questions and no one would participate. Turned out that she'd ask the question, pause, then keep talking. Over time she said she learned to count ten full seconds after the question. By then one of us Westerners would have processed the pause and offered a response. Very funny.Jeffe Kennedyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04779020656676094853noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2570797399734382213.post-71891458625237507032011-01-26T02:40:34.649-07:002011-01-26T02:40:34.649-07:00The pauses in East Coast conversations go by so fl...<i>The pauses in East Coast conversations go by so fleetingly that, by the time, I've heard the opening, someone else has taken the reins and run with the topic. </i><br /><br />OH! This is so true for me. I grew up in California and recently I had a chance to go to New England (for the first time). I felt so out-of-whack and was starting to get really depressed about it. It took my boyfriend saying "Just because you are back in the US doesn't mean you are home" to make me realise how different the tempo was. There was one New Yorker there that I couldn't hold a conversation with at all, I just couldn't keep up. I didn't actually spot the reason but I think you've got it exactly.Sylviahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05925593802209715440noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2570797399734382213.post-42214034385331680292011-01-19T13:24:00.484-07:002011-01-19T13:24:00.484-07:00Ah, Gabi, alas for us geeky types!
Lt. - I really...Ah, Gabi, alas for us geeky types!<br /><br />Lt. - I really notice it at work, too. Particularly on conference calls where people wrestle for control of the speakerphone. I find it much easier to have conversations *after* the meeting with key people.<br /><br />Faith, you're exactly right. That's a lovely way to see it.Jeffe Kennedyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04779020656676094853noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2570797399734382213.post-59999108389255166582011-01-19T13:12:44.451-07:002011-01-19T13:12:44.451-07:00Still, what it comes down to me is not that I have...<i>Still, what it comes down to me is not that I have a fear of failure, but that I don't think winning is all it's cracked up to be. It certainly isn't worth sacrificing happiness or what I believe to be a generous and loving way to treat other people.</i><br /><br />That kind of "winning" may not be all it's cracked up to be. But success is self-defined, and it looks like you're comfortable with how you've defined it. So really, you've won after all.Faith Van Hornehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03323794807174371470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2570797399734382213.post-84680240972961272822011-01-19T12:26:29.863-07:002011-01-19T12:26:29.863-07:00I could really relate to this. I often wind up bei...I could really relate to this. I often wind up being quiet - too quiet - at social events and even sometimes during meetings at work because I'm just not going to fight to be heard. It's less an aversion to competition and more that I'll only expend energy to insert myself if I think it's worth it, and it usually isn't. (In the rare cases I judge it is worth it, I'll try harder.)<br /><br />Besides, most of the time I'd rather listen.Lt. Cccyxxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18421346964929818151noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2570797399734382213.post-55994462542688050392011-01-19T11:30:05.188-07:002011-01-19T11:30:05.188-07:00So true, Jeffe. I often feel that I'm on the s...So true, Jeffe. I often feel that I'm on the sidelines looking in with no sense of when to jump in.<br />--GabiGabihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18260655145994694106noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2570797399734382213.post-46140302433142655812011-01-19T11:23:51.143-07:002011-01-19T11:23:51.143-07:00Good word, Jami - I know other people don't re...Good word, Jami - I know other people don't regard it as being "pushy", but it's hard for me to get past that. <br /><br />Rachel, you are so not alone! Wallflowers unite!Jeffe Kennedyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04779020656676094853noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2570797399734382213.post-13740613017496374422011-01-19T10:51:36.778-07:002011-01-19T10:51:36.778-07:00Thank you for this. I suck at Twitter and often fe...Thank you for this. I suck at Twitter and often feel like I'm in the corner, sipping my drink, watching the popular crowd. You've explained this perfectly. <br /><br />Now that I know I'm not alone, I'll keep trying.<br /><br />- RachelR.L. Naquinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07646702531501661160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2570797399734382213.post-60059586706297651802011-01-19T10:34:31.435-07:002011-01-19T10:34:31.435-07:00Hi Jeffe,
Yep, I can relate and agree on many lev...Hi Jeffe,<br /><br />Yep, I can relate and agree on many levels. I'm not comfortable being a pushy person. :)Jami Goldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00957122956518765455noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2570797399734382213.post-34086921837321946312011-01-19T10:11:17.905-07:002011-01-19T10:11:17.905-07:00Danica - we should have that on our gravestones: &...Danica - we should have that on our gravestones: "not an asshole!" Love it.<br /><br />So true, Laura! ~winks~Jeffe Kennedyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04779020656676094853noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2570797399734382213.post-7782531272464829842011-01-19T10:04:27.274-07:002011-01-19T10:04:27.274-07:00Great post, Jeffe. Lots of food for thought. Socia...Great post, Jeffe. Lots of food for thought. Social navigation in cyberspace is doubly tough, I think. We can't really read each other's body language or facial expressions. Feedback, like a raised eyebrow or twitch of the mouth, is invisible.Laura Bicklehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02498043274943334697noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2570797399734382213.post-73263205250773077372011-01-19T09:54:17.372-07:002011-01-19T09:54:17.372-07:00I'm with Allison. I started blogging as someth...I'm with Allison. I started blogging as something I needed to do to build my platform, but after a couple of months, I've grown to love it. It's a way for me to write without worrying whether it's going to be accepted. <br /><br />I just read that article and I can now say that I'm glad to be a small fish in a big pond. I might not go down in history as being the most eccentric or interesting writer, but I won't go down as being an asshole either. I hope.Danica Avethttp://danicaavet.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2570797399734382213.post-73225992927403109722011-01-19T09:40:24.835-07:002011-01-19T09:40:24.835-07:00Thanks Theresa! You're one of the bright spots...Thanks Theresa! You're one of the bright spots in my stream, too!<br /><br />Yeah, Allison, having the "followers" is nice - but it doesn't mean they're actually reading. And oh yes, how I love to lurk. But it's the closing the loop thing: wanting to know what you wrote has been read. Mostly we don't get to know that, I suppose.<br /><br />There's a spot right here on the couch next to me Kristina!Jeffe Kennedyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04779020656676094853noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2570797399734382213.post-60109520751261267182011-01-19T09:35:21.420-07:002011-01-19T09:35:21.420-07:00Once again reminding me why I like having you be p...Once again reminding me why I like having you be part of my twitter stream. <br /><br />You've said exactly how I feel about this whole new era we are in and why I feel like a wall flower most times. :)Kristinahttp://www.tenminutemissive.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2570797399734382213.post-22053439060296440612011-01-19T09:11:34.142-07:002011-01-19T09:11:34.142-07:00Heh. Apt post, honestly - and I totally agree. It&...Heh. Apt post, honestly - and I totally agree. It's like getting blog followers - sure it's nice to have them and more followers means more people are listening to what I have to say (in theory) - but the truth is that I'd blog even if I didn't have any. I blog because I enjoy blogging. (And same with twitter to a point). I like catching little snippets of other conversations and maybe commenting on them, but I also like how I'm not trapped by them. I can comment and bail. I certainly mention things that are happening to me in the pubbing world on my blog and twitter, but I don't market on them. (Or not much. I'll retweet others and announce once for myself and that's it. Anything else is really annoying, I think.)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08810952821295312008noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2570797399734382213.post-45459770876253575832011-01-19T09:09:19.519-07:002011-01-19T09:09:19.519-07:00Well, I'm glad you're one of my twitter fr...Well, I'm glad you're one of my twitter friends. I've enjoyed seeing your comments in my stream so much that I've taken to reading your blog when I get a chance. :)<br /><br />TheresaEdittorrenthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14295505709568570553noreply@blogger.com